Aretha Franklin sang about it. The late Rodney Dangerfield joked about it. And, we talk about it. What is it? RESPECT. If your relationship does not have an adequate amount of respect it is most likely doomed.
In the previous blog, I reviewed the reasons why men cheat. Since I am an "equal opportunity blogger", I would be remissed if I did not write about women cheating. There are a variety of emotional, psychological and physical reasons why the so called "weaker sex" deceives and strays from their mate. I have listed a handful of reasons for the inquiring mind.
Top 20 reasons why women cheat:
"Questions are the key
to unlock life's mysteries." -- LBJ
You have an extraordinary ability to reach your highest potential. Unfortunately, unexpected changes and other obstacles in life often get in the way of your dreams. You may find yourself dissatisfied with your life. What is stopping you from living your dreams? Have you found your "calling" in life? Are you fulfilling what you believe is your purpose on earth?
The answers are found in these ten thought-provoking questions:
“Your odyssey in life is uniquely yours,
comparing your path to others
devalues your journey.”-- LBJ
In my late teens, I kept a journal for many years. I titled it “me." The journal was a collection of my observations about people and life. Over the years I would thumb through the pages to reflect upon my insights.
Why do men bother to get married if they are going to betray their bride? This is the "elephant in the room", the "$64,000 question." The truth is hidden deep inside of a cheater’s heart, spirit and mind. The hurt spouse and shocked observers can only speculate as to why the deception occurred. If the cheater fesses up and honestly reveals the reasons behind the affair, the truth will be known. If not, you will have to guess why married men cheat.
This blog addresses men's marital infidelity issues. Yet, anyone in a serious committed relationship can benefit from this information.
“Couples are either divided fighting each other
or united fighting someone or something else.”
After 23 years of marriage, resolving countless disagreements, researching partnerships and interviewing numerous guests on the topic of relationships, I consider myself a relationship expert.
One thing I have learned over the years is that there is no “one size fits all” approach to fighting on the relationship battlefield. Anyone who has been in a long-term relationship can appreciate that fact. Truthfully, discord is an inevitable and tricky distraction in any union. Why do you argue in the first place? Your personality, motives and fighting style determine why and how you spar.
“When you focus on the problem, you miss the rainbows of life” -- LBJ
Everyone has problems. Some troubles are self imposed and others are life's unexpected, crazy surprises. Generally speaking, problems are subjective. You see life through your prism. Whether it is cloudy or clear it is still your prism. Nevertheless, what you see is what you get. What you perceive to be real and problematic is what matters. Here's the problem with problems: they catch you off guard and they lurk around when you are at your lowest low. But, here's some good news: most problems are short lived and only a few last a lifetime. They still have the potential to wreak havoc on your life and psyche. One common denominator of problems is stress. This is the hidden anchor that causes you to drown in your sorrows. I learned over the years that all problems breed some form of stress.
set high standards for others
and honor the same high standards
for themselves.” LBJ
In Part 1 of this series, I reviewed the five basic qualities of leaders. Today I will explore the seven leadership qualities that are seen and experienced only in a select few whom by their actions and results have earned our respect and admiration. I have organized these virtues as the seven "I's" of exceptional leaders.
set high standards for others and
honor the same high standards for themselves.” LBJ
We would like to believe that leaders are special... some of us falsely believe that leaders have admirable qualities but the reality is many don't. Leaders have the same weakness and “human moments” as the average person. In essence, leaders are ordinary people thrust into extraordinary circumstances.
"Anybody can fall in love but not everyone
has the skills to survive the fall."- LBJ
Sally B.: Linda, I need help with my relationships... I feel as though my relationship problems are getting the best of me! What can I do?
“Change is the ultimate champion.
You will never win fighting change.
Working with change is the only way to win." -- LBJ.
I've had to accept change in my life more times than I care to remember. My life was relatively predictable growing up and also as a young adult. When I got married is when change became the norm!
There were two factors that led to my rapid adjustment:
Look around you…
Not everyone you think is in your corner is cheering for you.
You will meet a handful of devoted friends and many fake friends in your lifetime.
Hopefully, the number of true friends outweighs the number of bad friends.
To your dismay, your friend might actually be your “frenemy.” Frenemies are jealous backstabbing saboteurs. They want something you have such as: a relationship or a career. They don’t want you to have something they desire. Their attitude is “if I can’t have it, neither can you!”
It is disheartening when someone you admire and thinks is a good friend turns on you. Perhaps they were never a friend after all.