You lack support...
Something went wrong, (again)...
So far, you've had varying success...
Things are not what they appeared to be or what you imagined...
No one liked your idea...
You are back to the drawing board...
Things are out of control... You are exasperated by distractions...
"Murphy's Law" is drawn to you and will not leave you alone...
You feel like giving up... DON'T!
Learn the secret to keep going and never quit!
Watch this video blog as Linda B James shares three ways
to take charge of your day and inspire yourself in the morning!
It's great to start your day on the edge of your seat, waiting for joyful experiences to fall out of the sky. For most of us, this doesn't happen... and you may be wondering, how do I inspire myself to greater joy, fulfillment and the life I want?? To change your life, keep reading...
The spirit of hope is emotional medicine. It pops into your thoughts in the early morning and in the dead of night. Words of hope are uplifting in the worst of times and exciting in the best of times. When facing trying times, they are your only defense against what ails you. How do you harness hope's power to transform?
Life keeps you sooo busy. Crazy Busy!!! Sometimes it is hard to find time to think let alone time to relax, time to recharge. Follow my easy and fun "Seven Steps to Defeat Distractions" regimen take control of your busy lifestyle.
on the Linda B James Show
Fighting Fair With The Love Of Your Life
Verbal confrontations with your mate winning every fight... How do you win them?
"To make a change,
move out the old mindset
and move in the new"
-- Linda B James (LBJ)
I started blogging on January 2014. My first blog was short and to the point. It was titled “How To Create Your Masterpiece In 2014." You may be wondering, when it comes to life, what is a "Masterpiece"?
Fall on Deaf Ears
Seven Ways to Detect and Defeat "Dream Enemies"
- Simply complicated?
The dictionary defines the word simple as - "easy to understand and not complex.'
Many believe that men are simple. Give them sports, sex, food, a lot of liquor and/or a good cigar and they are happy. This is a MYTH!
Contrary to popular belief, men are strangely complex. Women are stumped trying to understand them!
"When things are not going your way,
remember your WHYS." -- LBJ
When you're frustrated and have reached your boiling point, remember your "WHYS." (see also my blogs on solving problems.) When you are tired to the bone and want to surrender to adversity, recite your "WHYS." When "Murphy's law" is playing defense and blocking your every step, rely on your laundry list of "WHYS." You ask, why do I need "WHYS"? Great question!
In my last blog, I introduced the 12 ways to enjoy a good laugh. This time around, I'll explore how laughter is natural medicine. Getting a chuckle out of life promotes wellness and reduces stress. We can thank Norman Cousins for shining the light on the healing power of humor. In his book Anatomy Of An Illness, Cousins writes about his debilitating disease. He explains how laughing and watching comedies helped him beat the odds. How can this help you?
"LIghten up the load in your life
with laughter" - LBJ
If you feel like your life is a pressure cooker, then it's time to "explode with laughter."
To lighten the mood, this blog is about the best medicine to soothe your soul… LOL!
Who doesn't need a daily dose of laughter? Studies show that children laugh about 400 times a day and adults laugh approximately 15 times a day. That's a big difference!
This blog is a sequel to Part 1, where I explored the hidden art and hidden truths in flirting. In Part 2, I will cover the subtle flirty actions of men.
Flirting is a subtle sexual language that can be hard to detect. A skillful flirter is as sly as a fox. He masterfully uses many techniques unbeknownst to his lover. The skillful flirter is too sophisticated to make ogle eyes or drool to signal his interest. He relies on his peripheral vision, creativity, intellect and the proximity to his target to make his moves. These actions happen in a flash. They take microseconds to execute. Don't blink or you may miss the gestures and signs. They are hidden in plain sight. If you don't know what to look for, they will go unnoticed.
If you suspect your man has a wandering eye, be on the lookout for these signs:
In Part 1 of this blog I introduced the "Ghost of Regret." I wrote about understanding the ghost and the negative side effects of living in the past. In Part 2 we get into the details! How can you defeat the ghosts of your past? How do you make regret disappear forever?
“Wallowing in self-pity keeps you suspended in the past.” -- LBJ
English novelist Charles Dickens has been widely acclaimed for his novel A Christmas Carol. In the story The Ghost of Christmas Past is the first of three ghosts to haunt Ebeneezer Scrooge. The spirit appeared to show Ebeneezer the error of his ways and the mistakes he had made in the past.
The modern day Ghost of Christmas Past can be called, “The Ghost of Regret.” This pesky spirit can make it difficult for you to bring closure to the past, paralyzes you from taking action and prevents you from realizing the future you deserve. How do you get rid of it?
What do you dislike about yourself?
What do you wish you could change?
Have you been in the past or a recent target of criticism?
If any of these questions "hit a nerve" then it is time for a "self-esteem makeover."
Aretha Franklin sang about it. The late Rodney Dangerfield joked about it. And, we talk about it. What is it? RESPECT. If your relationship does not have an adequate amount of respect it is most likely doomed.
In the previous blog, I reviewed the reasons why men cheat. Since I am an "equal opportunity blogger", I would be remissed if I did not write about women cheating. There are a variety of emotional, psychological and physical reasons why the so called "weaker sex" deceives and strays from their mate. I have listed a handful of reasons for the inquiring mind.
Top 20 reasons why women cheat:
“Your odyssey in life is uniquely yours,
comparing your path to others
devalues your journey.”-- LBJ
In my late teens, I kept a journal for many years. I titled it “me." The journal was a collection of my observations about people and life. Over the years I would thumb through the pages to reflect upon my insights.
Why do men bother to get married if they are going to betray their bride? This is the "elephant in the room", the "$64,000 question." The truth is hidden deep inside of a cheater’s heart, spirit and mind. The hurt spouse and shocked observers can only speculate as to why the deception occurred. If the cheater fesses up and honestly reveals the reasons behind the affair, the truth will be known. If not, you will have to guess why married men cheat.
This blog addresses men's marital infidelity issues. Yet, anyone in a serious committed relationship can benefit from this information.
“Couples are either divided fighting each other
or united fighting someone or something else.”
After 23 years of marriage, resolving countless disagreements, researching partnerships and interviewing numerous guests on the topic of relationships, I consider myself a relationship expert.
One thing I have learned over the years is that there is no “one size fits all” approach to fighting on the relationship battlefield. Anyone who has been in a long-term relationship can appreciate that fact. Truthfully, discord is an inevitable and tricky distraction in any union. Why do you argue in the first place? Your personality, motives and fighting style determine why and how you spar.
“When you focus on the problem, you miss the rainbows of life” -- LBJ
Everyone has problems. Some troubles are self imposed and others are life's unexpected, crazy surprises. Generally speaking, problems are subjective. You see life through your prism. Whether it is cloudy or clear it is still your prism. Nevertheless, what you see is what you get. What you perceive to be real and problematic is what matters. Here's the problem with problems: they catch you off guard and they lurk around when you are at your lowest low. But, here's some good news: most problems are short lived and only a few last a lifetime. They still have the potential to wreak havoc on your life and psyche. One common denominator of problems is stress. This is the hidden anchor that causes you to drown in your sorrows. I learned over the years that all problems breed some form of stress.
set high standards for others and
honor the same high standards for themselves.” LBJ
We would like to believe that leaders are special... some of us falsely believe that leaders have admirable qualities but the reality is many don't. Leaders have the same weakness and “human moments” as the average person. In essence, leaders are ordinary people thrust into extraordinary circumstances.
“Change is the ultimate champion.
You will never win fighting change.
Working with change is the only way to win." -- LBJ.
I've had to accept change in my life more times than I care to remember. My life was relatively predictable growing up and also as a young adult. When I got married is when change became the norm!
There were two factors that led to my rapid adjustment: